Breakups are tough, no matter which season
they come in. But if it happens during the holidays, it can leave you feeling
especially lonely, heartbroken, and emotionally drained.
This could be because
you have to see your family, and every family has that in-your-face lovey-dovey
couple that can make it difficult for you to keep your food down.
If you’ve broken up with your partner and
want to know the best ways to deal with a breakup over the holidays, here’s the
ultimate guide on what to do:
Stay focused and busy
It’s only natural that you feel the need to
mourn your relationship, after all, you had some priceless memories with that
person. What’s not okay is that you spend too much time thinking about the past
and feeling sad about it; if you keep this up, it’s only going to ruin your
One of the best ways of getting over a
breakup is keeping busy. Take up an activity you’ve only been thinking about
all this time, such as yoga or a cooking class. Having a tight schedule will
keep your mind off the breakup
and might even help you turn it into a breakout!
Reach out to loved ones
Don’t close yourself off from people and
possibilities. An easy way to cope with a breakup is by reaching out to the
people you love. Reconnect with the ones you’ve been out of touch with and let
them fill you in on what’s been going on in their lives.
You might find that you’re willing to share
your breakup story with someone because they’re comforting, and feel like they
can help you rewire
your heart. Who knows, a family member of yours might be going through the
same thing, and you can make each other feel better.
Avoid painful memories
Got an urge to open your phone’s gallery
and look at pictures of you and your ex? Fight it with all your might. Make
sure you steer clear of places you two used to visit together so as to avoid
memories that are too painful to handle. You have to proceed with caution
during the holidays if you want to go
past your ex-boyfriend in 21 days.
Self-care comes first
Holidays are already stressful, and having
to deal with a breakup during them can make the stress much worse. This is why
it becomes extremely important that you take some time out to pamper yourself.
You don’t want the stress to cause your skin to breakout, trust us.
To recover from the
breakup, go get a relaxing massage, a manicure, and/or a pedicure. Taking a
long walk on the beach, or coloring
in stress relieving colouring book can be equally relaxing. All you need to
do is dedicate some time to self-care for the sake of your mental wellbeing.
Take a break from social media
One moment you feel fine and the next you
look at the stories uploaded by your friends on social media and you start
It could be that you have FOMO (fear of
missing out), or that you start to feel bad about yourself by comparing your
situation to other people’s lives. Taking a break from social media at this
point would be the best thing you can do for yourself. Going through a breakup
around the holidays is bad enough, you don’t have to make it worse by coming
across your ex’s profile and looking at a post they uploaded about having fun
at a party.
Keep some perspective
Breakup over the holidays? A phase of your life might be over, but
your life is not. To survive a breakup during holidays, you mustn’t lose
perspective. Instead, try to turn a devastating
loss into the best thing that ever happened to you by building your
confidence, focusing on giving, not giving up on love, and trying to heal as quickly
You can take self-grooming classes and
focus on giving yourself and building yourself up and walking out of the relationship with your
head held high.
Seek professional help
While you might not know how to deal with a
breakup, we assure you that your therapist does. They can provide you a
step by step guide to overcoming a heartbreak in the best possible ways.
There’s no shame in getting help when
you’re going through a tough time. People tend to overlook their emotional
stability, thinking all will get better with time. That’s not what happens. If
you bury your feelings instead of resolving them, one day they’ll come back to
So, one of the most important things you
need to do when going through a breakup is to make sure you give your feelings
an outlet. Your mental wellbeing is just as important as your physical health,
so make sure you don’t compromise on it.