If a relationship has turned sour and your heart is not in it anymore, it's better to break up before the most romantic day of the year arrives.
Yep, you read that right. While most people are likely to push through Valentine's Day before breaking things off, we believe it's better to do it before the holiday.
Margie Mauldin, a writer who penned the book called "Feedback Revolution,” says that ending a failing relationship before February 14th saves people from an unpleasant experience.
"On the emotional side, it's a lot of energy. Valentine's Day has a lot of expectations surrounding it. Having a person go through that when you're just going to break up seems like double misery to me."
If you think about it, what she says is right. Even if you think from a dollar and cents perspective, you can save up to $100 that you'll be forced to spend on chocolates, roses, and a nice night out that you won't even enjoy.
If you've decided to break up with your partner, just make sure you do it respectfully without making them feel worse than they already will.
Here's how to break up before Valentine's Day.
Make Sure It's What You Really Want
Before you begin strategizing about how to break up with your partner before Valentine's Day, make sure that it's something you're absolutely certain about. If you're making this decision because of a recent fight or argument, stop right in your tracks.
Couples often get back together after days or weeks of separation, and this can make Valentine's dinner a wee bit awkward. To avoid a situation like this, make a firm decision for all the right reasons.
Choose the Right Time
Deciding when to break up with her can be tricky. Truth be told, there's never the perfect moment to execute the fractious act of breaking up, but to soften the blow for your soon-to-be-ex, you need to choose the best time.
Make sure they don't have any important meetings, gatherings, or events on the calendar for the next few days. Also, ensure you're not breaking things off too close to Valentine's Day. Lastly, don't spring it upon them when they're least expecting it – or it'll be a monumental blow.
Don't Be Cruel
While you shouldn't be completely dishonest, you also shouldn't be flat-out blunt. If you're not attracted to them, or you hate the way they chew their food, or you wish they would stop #hashtaging #the #life #out #of #Instagram #posts, keep it to yourself. The other person doesn't need to know every detail.
Instead of hurting their feelings, just tell them that you two are in different places now or that your goals don't align any longer. Make things easy on the other person by taking the high road.
Don't Drag It
Keep the breakup conversation short and concise. You don't want to have an hour-long discussion and share too many details, that's just wrong. It'll only lead to more pain and ruin Valentine's spirit for both of you.
If you know the other person has been sensing a breakup, then the shorter your speech, the better. However, if it's a total surprise for them, then you might want to elaborate just a little bit. The one thing you need to be mindful of during the conversation is not to repeat your arguments. When it seems that you both understand each other, stop the conversation right there.
Do It Face-to-Face
Cross off the call, WhatsApp, DMs, Facebook messages, Tweets, LinkedIn messages, letter in a bottle, and pigeons carrying letters from your ways to break up list. The one and only appropriate way to break up with someone is face to face. This shows that you respect the other person and value their sentiments and that you're just a decent human being.
When you're done talking, it's your turn to listen. Stop yourself from interrupting the other person when they are sharing their feelings with you. Hear them out. We're not saying that you should change your mind, all we want to say is let them express their thoughts about the breakup.
It's also important that you use appropriate body language; don't send them mixed signals by conduct yourself inappropriately around them.
These are some things you should consider when breaking up with your partner before Valentine's Day.
If you're having second thoughts about it, you should know that relationships work based on honesty. You're not being true to yourself if you're pretending to be with someone when your heart's not in it. In this case, breaking up is the best thing to do.
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